Holiday insigts

For the past 2 weeks we’ve been back in South Africa. We’ve been soaking up the sun and visiting our families. It feels like the time have been flying at lightning speed.

At least we got to spend some quality time with our families. I feel sad because I miss them, but they all seem to be doing fine.

I also had the opportunity to spend some time with my stepmom. It took me some time to get use to her as my dad married her barely 6 months after my mother’s passing. After my mom died I didn’t really want to form any new connections in my life. It was so painful losing someone so close to me, and I had a lot of regrets. I remember telling my husband that I wanted to visit my mom on the weekend because I’m worried about her, by then she was already bedridden and didn’t really open her eyes or speak, but I use to talk to her in any case and sometimes, just sometimes she would open her eyes and faintly smile at me. But that Thursday, my dad phoned me and told me that she had passed away.

Since then I stayed away from new people and new relationships, but after this weekend I feel that I can start allowing people back into my life.

My outfit this week is my little Korean style dress. I like wearing it because it reminds me of Korea. It also has a loose fit and allows you to move around in it. I got it form Teeny Weeny in Seoul, Korea.




DIY Lace Choker

Over the past few months I’ve seen increasingly more and more chokers. I remember when I was around 13 years old, chokers were quite a thing. We all had them. They were made from plastic and probably not really fit for a 13 year old. I remember that Pamela Anderson had a barb wire tattoo on her arm in her movie Barb Wire and then we got all those barb wire inspired chokers. It seems however that the choker has returned and I like it. I’ve seen a lot of really pretty ones but since I love lace, I’ve decided to make a lace choker.

What you’ll need.


  1. Measuring band
  2. Lace ribbon
  3. Snap buttons (2)
  4. A needle and thread.
  5. A charm ( if you want)



Measure around your neck. Be sure to measure an extra 3/4 inch (2 cm).Cut your ribbon according to the measurement. Fold the 2 sides of the ribbon in. Only about 1 cm each. Sew the sides separately.


Sew on the snap buttons on either side of the ribbon.


Button the ribbon and fold it in 2. Check where the middle is and sew your charm on… and viola, you’ve got a choker.


I’ve also made a little ribbon with the rest of the lace that I could slip on to a bobby pin for my hair


I hope you like these and try your own designs 🙂



My 5 favorite online clothing stores – at the moment.

Ever since I’ve been in Korea, I’ve become more and more reliant on Online Clothing shops. As you know by now, Korea doesn’t freely carry average western sizes in all their stores and therefore you have to either travel very far to get something that fits you or shop online.

I’ve only really started following people on Instagram this year and found a few lovely fashion bloggers whose style I really like. Through their choices I have learned of quite a few websites I’ve never even knew existed.


Showpo is an Australian brand. I think the reason why I like it so much is because all their outfits looks so summery. There are a lot of dresses that I would love to get from them but some of them won’t be acceptable here in Korea. One of the main reasons is that its not really proper to show your cleavage here. They have only just started showing their shoulders.


Lulu’s are actually really cheap and their shipping is really fast especially considering that I’m in Korea. Although their prices are cheap the garment quality is really good. If there is one thing I hate, its when I have to buy a $40 dress that looks and feels like it should be $10.


They are a little more pricier than the other shops but their dresses are cute an feminine.



They have cute little dresses and play-suits. I also love the soft colors.


I really love nasty gal although their outfits are more for dinners or clubbing and not really daytime outfits. I have bought some clothing and even some underwear here before but the shipping takes a little long.

Which online shops do you line?


Dependant Personality Style

Many people exhibit dependant traits but those with Dependant personality disorder have and excessive need to be taken care of which result in submissive and clinging behaviours, regardless of the consequences. They are overly dependent on others to make their decisions for them and are generally unable to make decisions for themselves without advice and reassurance from others (Kaplan et al., 1994).

This fashion style stems from the idea that a person with Dependant Personality Style is a fashion follower. She will know exactly what’s in style this season and what’s not.  She will be reliant on the styles of her friends and on others, will often dress to fit in and follows trends religiously.

Friend style reliant 

Fashion straight from a fashion magazine/blog

Follows trends


Dress to fit in

When it comes to style we all are dependant from time to time. Adding your own flare to trends makes that style your own.

How dependant is your style?

Read more about other personality related styles here, here and here



Depressive Personality style

Unlike the histrionic and narcissist styles the depressive style isn’t in search or need of attention. On the contrary she wants as little attention as possible. She wears dark or neutral colours to go unseen. Her clothes often represent her gloomy mood.

Dark Makeup

Her dark makeup might be in the form of eye makeup

or even just darker than usual lips, or both

Lots of black

Neutral tones

The Depressive style is the Miss Doom and Gloom between all the personality styles. She wears her dark emotions on her clothes. We all go through periods in our life where the depressive style comes in handy but mostly this only lasts for a short period of time until we can get back on our feet again. Just as our emotions and personality traits influence our dress, so too does our dress influence our moods. Wearing too many outfits lacking in colour can make anyone feel a little depressed.

Do you know anyone with a Depressive style?