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Narcissistic Style

Narcissism comes from the Greek myth of Narcissus, a handsome young man who fell in love with his own reflection in a pond. He was unable to consume his love and lay next to the pond looking at himself until he turned into a flowers, the narcissus.

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As part of my 5 series posts about how our personality traits influence our outfit choices, narcissism will be today’s topic of discussion. You can also have a look at what Histrionic Style looks like.

Having narcissistic personality traits includes a grandiose sense of self importance, fantasies of unlimited success, power beauty and ideal love, requires excessive admiration, sense of entitlement, arrogant, envious and lacks empathy for other.(DSM-5) Having a personality disorder is a serious issue. To be diagnosed with one you have to meet 5 out of the nine criteria and it has to negatively impact your work, love and family life.

Although narcissistic personality disorder is a very serious disorder, all of us possess these traits in varying degrees without having a negative impact on our lives. Some days we feel confident and strong while on other days we might feel adventurous or even melancholic and depressed. Our moods and traits often define what we wear.

Therefore someone with a narcissistic fashion style, will dress to impress and to be the center of attention. Having the best shoes or outfit is what they are after.Quality is more important that quantity. They want recognition. They are confident in what they wear and who they are.

Here are some examples of Narcissistic style

Chic Hairstyle

Eye catching outfits

The birkin Bag

There is nothing more flashy than a big Birkin bag..

Flashy shoes

 

Some of the traits of Narcissistic and histrionic styles overlap, for example, both seek attention. Histrionics would get attention by wearing bright colors and over dramatizations while narcissist will attract attention by making themselves the most important person in the room.

If you have a narcissistic style, go ahead, make those heads turn and own it!!!

Do you know anyone with a narcissistic style?

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The importance of date night.

There are millions of people around the world and each person has their own quarks. Similarly each couple experience their relationship differently. Even though there are some characteristics that all relationships share, our experiences are all different. Take me and my brother for instance. We’re both married but we experience our relationships in manners that are worlds apart. My husband and I prefer to do almost everything together. We can’t stand being apart. When he had to sleep over at my brothers house to write his exams in Seoul, I missed him so much that I did the kind of things that anxious people do to keep themselves calm. Like cleaning the house and going shopping, washing all the carpets etc. Whereas my brother and his wife believe that spending time apart can be therapeutic. And there is no right or wrong way. We are both happy with the way we do things within our relationships.

This brings me to date night. As previously mentioned each person’s likes and dislikes are different. For example, to me date night means going out for dinner or a movie, it has to be at night, otherwise its just ‘going out’ whereas others might turn of their cellphones and other social media devices and just spend a quiet night watching DVD’s The one isn’t any better than the other. The more important thing is spending time together, away from normal adult stuff.

Date night is important because living in a household together with your partner or spouse can be stressful, you have to cook, clean, look after the children and pay the bills. Although you may do these things with your partner it often happens that you live past each other. Therefore date night is an important habit to form. It gives you the chance to catch up with your partner about what’s going on in their lives, and to share your feelings.

Date night is the time to rekindle your love whether you do date night once a week or once a month it is an important part of being a couple.

Therefore it is important to put time aside for just the 2 of you, similarly celebrating special events like birthdays and wedding anniversaries are also important, whether you make it a big affair or just a simple token of appreciation like breakfast in bed.

Don’t forget how special you are to each other and take every opportunity you can to show your spouse how much you love and care for them.

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Work wear for English Teachers (Korea)

Mint Dress

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Denim

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Orange

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Black & white

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Flat shoes are always the best option when you’re standing on your feat the whole day.

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5 Easy side dishes for your barbecue

Since we’re coming to the end of all things associated with warmer weather we should take the chance to have at least one final barbecue before winter officially arrive. Therefore I have compiled some of my favourite side dishes.

Polenta Pie

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INGREDIENTS

For the sauce

  • 2 Tomatoes
  • 1 ts garlic
  • 1 Onion
  • 1 Green Pepper
  • 4 Mushrooms
  • 1 Packet of bacon (around 6 pieces)
  • Cup of shredded cheese ( only add cheese at the end)

Fry the Bacon then in a separate pan fry all the ingredients in some butter as you would usually do starting with the onion, garlic and green pepper, when properly sauteed  then add the mushrooms and cook until soft.

For the Polenta

  • 1 1/2 Cup Polenta (Mieliepap)
  • 2 Cups of boiling water
  • 1/2  Cup Pouring Cream

Put the dry polenta in a bowl and add boiling water. Mix until it looks smooth. Microwave for 1 minute and mix and add some water if the mixture looks too dry. Repeat 2 more times. Mix the cream with the Polenta mix.

Then mix all the ingredients together. Pour it into a baking dish and cover with cheese. Bake until the cheese is brown and crispy. Let the mixture cool to make it set. If you don’t care whether it sets or not you can eat it as soon as it comes out of the oven😛

Pull apart Bread

Easy and delicious, the more cheese you add the better it ends up. You could also do this with ham and cheese or even spinach and feta. Recipe here

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INGREDIENTS
  • 1 crusty loaf, preferably sourdough or Vienna
  • ¾ cup shredded Mozzarella cheese (or other melting cheese)
Garlic Butter
  • 100g/3.5oz unsalted butter, softened
  • 2 garlic cloves, minced
  • ¾ tsp salt
  • 1 tbsp fresh parsley, finely chopped

Rice pasta Salad

This recipe is really easy to make if you don’t have to much time and because of the amount of food it makes its a perfect dish to feed more than 1 family. Recipe here 

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INGREDIENTS FOR Greek Orzo Salad.
1 1/2 cups uncooked orzo pasta
2 cans marinated artichoke hearts (6 ounce cans)
1 tomato, seeded and chopped
1 cucumber, seeded and chopped
1 red onion, chopped

1 cup crumbled feta cheese
1 can black olives, drained (2 ounce can)
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
1/2 teaspoon lemon pepper

Alternatively you can use the orzo pasta, tomatoes, onions, chopped ham, chopped cheddar cheese squares, olive and mayo. Add salt and pepper to taste.

Twice baked potatoes

This dish is deliciously different, it takes a bit of time but its well worth the wait. Full recipe here.

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INGREDIENTS
  • 4 baking potatoes (about 2 pounds)
  • ¾ cup sour cream
  • 6 tablespoons butter, softened
  • 2 ounces cream cheese, softened
  • 2 green onions, chopped
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1 teaspoon pepper
  • ¼ teaspoon thyme
  • ¼ cup milk
  • ¾ cup grated Cheddar cheese
  • Paprika

Veggie Skewers/Kebabs

One of the healthiest sides for a barbecue is the Veggie Kebab. You can add any kind of vegetables on the skewer. You can marinade the veggies or leave as is and then just add salts and spices while you barbecue them. This is a great option whether you’re vegetarian or just want to add some vegetables to your meal.

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Wedding ideas – deep purple and mauve

Bouquet

After choosing your dress the next important step will be to choose the wedding bouquet.

Reception

Entrance 

When people arrive at your reception hall they should be in awe. It is important to create an entrance that reflects the rest of the reception. Whether your reception is held inside or outside these ideas can add that extra little something you’re looking for.

Lights

The importance of lighting can never be underestimated. Purple flowers aren’t always in season and spraying everything mauve might prove too expensive. Therefore when all else fails always remember that lights can create any kind of atmosphere from dramatic to romantic.

Table arrangements

Mauve is such an easy colour to work with, by adding some green to the arrangements, it will really make the colour pop.

Bridal Party

Insert your theme colour in all aspects of the wedding

 

Other wedding favours

 

I hope you enjoy planning your purple wedding as much as I enjoyed putting this together.

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