Which Sex and the City girl are you?

Are you the duty before self Charlotte? The literal and intellectual Carrie? The fiery loner Miranda? Or the nothing to lose Samantha?

Everyone has a favourite Sex and the City girl. Your favourite girl is a reflection of who you are. Even if you have more than one favourite it represents a balance between the four personalities.

According to proto-psychological theory there are four fundamental personality types; Sanguine (optimistic and social),  Choleric (short tempered and irritable), Melancholic (analytical and quiet) and Phlegmatic (relaxed and peaceful) Hippocrates classified these personalities according to the four elements, earth, wind, fire and water.He stated that there could also be a balance between the 4 personalities yielding a total of 9 personalities (wikipedia)

Lets get to the point then…which Sex and the city girl are you?

Miranda

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Miranda is sanguine. According to the Sanguine personality type your qualities include; sociable, outgoing, talkative, responsive, easygoing, lively, carefree and leadership. If you are Miranda, you are warm-hearted, optimistic and creative. The things you enjoy doing the most are the things you love.

Miranda style always showed that she wasn’t afraid of a challenge. Her style was effortlessly sexy. Her LBD didn’t show too much skin showing that she didn’t need feminine charm to get a man. She often drank whiskey on the rocks to show that she has the balls for a challenge. Her adventurous side was illustrated by her statement jewelry choices. She practically lived in her lounge wear when she was at home, and her lingerie style was more comfort than glam. She often wore lingerie that were functional as it’s coming off in any way.

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Samantha

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Samantha is Choleric. Accordingly your personality qualities include; touchy, aggressive, restless, excitable, changeable, impulsive, optimistic and active. If you are Samantha, you are task orientated and prefer to get things done immediately. You  are strong willed and like to be in charge. You like planning and you are practical and solution orientated.

Samantha’s style is lust driven. She is strong and driven and not afraid to mix business with pleasure. Her LBD’s whole existence is there so that men can be inspired to take it off. Her lingerie choices would include lacy corsets that doesn’t take much skill to remove.

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Carrie

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Carrie is Phlegmatic. If you are Carrie your qualities include: passive, careful, thoughtful, peaceful, controlled, reliable, even tempered and calm. You are patient, caring and tolerant. You have a rich peaceful inner self. You seek peaceful environments and atmospheres. You are steadfast and consistent and therefore you make a good friend.

Carries style is adventurous and flirty. She likes to mix vintage items with high fashion items. Her style is fresh and girly. In modern day it might even be a little bohemian at times.  Her lingerie choices would include very cute bra and a thong, something a little more edgy

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Charlotte

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Charlotte is Melancholic. According to this personality type, your qualities are; reserved, quiet, sober, anxious, moody, rigid, pessimistic and unsociable. You prefer to do things yourself. You are often concerned about the cruelty of the world and is easily susceptible to depression and moodiness. You are focused and conscientious and have great sympathy for the world.

Charlotte’s style is feminine and classy. She loves outfits that make her look like a girl. Her outfits almost always include floral prints, lace or silk. She prefers to look classy and would not experiment with outrageous fashions. Her underwear would include very cute bra and pantie sets

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Although these personality types are all different, one could argue that they fulfill each other. Just like you often get introverts and extroverts being drawn to each other in an effort to compliment the other by compensating for their social deficits. Each personality type is there to enhance and enrich the other, whatever your personality type.

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The importance of date night.

There are millions of people around the world and each person has their own quarks. Similarly each couple experience their relationship differently. Even though there are some characteristics that all relationships share, our experiences are all different. Take me and my brother for instance. We’re both married but we experience our relationships in manners that are worlds apart. My husband and I prefer to do almost everything together. We can’t stand being apart. When he had to sleep over at my brothers house to write his exams in Seoul, I missed him so much that I did the kind of things that anxious people do to keep themselves calm. Like cleaning the house and going shopping, washing all the carpets etc. Whereas my brother and his wife believe that spending time apart can be therapeutic. And there is no right or wrong way. We are both happy with the way we do things within our relationships.

This brings me to date night. As previously mentioned each person’s likes and dislikes are different. For example, to me date night means going out for dinner or a movie, it has to be at night, otherwise its just ‘going out’ whereas others might turn of their cellphones and other social media devices and just spend a quiet night watching DVD’s The one isn’t any better than the other. The more important thing is spending time together, away from normal adult stuff.

Date night is important because living in a household together with your partner or spouse can be stressful, you have to cook, clean, look after the children and pay the bills. Although you may do these things with your partner it often happens that you live past each other. Therefore date night is an important habit to form. It gives you the chance to catch up with your partner about what’s going on in their lives, and to share your feelings.

Date night is the time to rekindle your love whether you do date night once a week or once a month it is an important part of being a couple.

Therefore it is important to put time aside for just the 2 of you, similarly celebrating special events like birthdays and wedding anniversaries are also important, whether you make it a big affair or just a simple token of appreciation like breakfast in bed.

Don’t forget how special you are to each other and take every opportunity you can to show your spouse how much you love and care for them.

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Is your makeup sending mixed messages?

We girls spend a lot of time preparing for a night out. It usually takes us around 3 hours to choose the right outfit, right hairstyle and do our makeup. If you are single a night out may end by meeting the love of your life but does he see you as the love of his life or just another ‘wham bam thank you mam’?

According to evulotuinary psychology ‘Men have their own preferences in physical appearance of their mate. Men’s main interest is to impregnate a mate to have children. Men tend to seek relatively young woman with full lips, breasts, and hips, and a smaller waist, because these indicate sufficient estrogen levels to successfully birth a child. Men also look for facial symmetry, shiny hair, clear skin, and white sclera. Men are less concerned about the social status of their chosen mate’.

In this case your make-up plays a big role. It is well known that men are visual creatures. If they like what they see, they are likely to approach you. Your make-up might determine how the night will end.

Research suggest that if you wear more natural makeup you seem more like  the marrying type.

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Red lipstick accentuates your lips and heavy eye makeup makes draws attention to your eyes making the sclera look whiter. Therefore this look will make you look more attractive but it will also send the message that you’re only good for one thing, which often ends in heartbreak if you really liked a guy and he doesn’t ever call you back after you hot summer night together.

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This goes to show that your makeup can send a different message than you intend. Generally  I  wear more natural makeup to work but I love smokey eyes and red dark lipsticks. Often when I want a certain response from my husband I will wear more eye makeup and lipstick on a night out as this works like a bomb….if you know what I mean.

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Advice to my younger self.

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Dear Younger Self.

Now that I’m 31, I have some things to say to you

First go study. Don’t wait until your late 20’s. You are much smarter than you think. You have the potential. Just because you didn’t do so well in school doesn’t mean that your dumb. You’ll be able to pass both your degrees with distinction just go for it.

Stop telling yourself you are fat and ugly. Wait until your 26 then you’ll know what is fat. Stop complaining and do something about it. Get in the gym now so that I don’t have to work so hard later. You are still young and beautiful enjoy that and stop being so negative, I’m still trying to clean up after your mess.

Stop buying on credit. By the time you’ve paid off that little blue dress you won’t even be wearing it anymore. That dress isn’t really worth it in any case, so don’t even buy it. If you start saving now, you’ll be able to afford the things you really want later and you won’t worry about your old age so much.

Love your husband more, he really is a keeper. And spend more time with your family. Soon some of them won’t be there anymore. Also visit Julian more, one of these days he’s going to Korea and then you won’t see him for 4 years.

I would hope that you will follow my advice but as we both know, it’s already too late

 

Sincerely yours

Your future self.

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Someone I see myself with in the future

When I was 16 years old I went to a 24 hour dance marathon hosted by our church with my best friend. When we walked into the dance hall there was a beautiful blond guy standing on the stage. He wasn’t alone but I only saw him. He had long blond hair that sort of hung in his face. And Ice blue eyes that reminded me of the ocean.

While I was dancing I stole looks at him ever so often. I left my water bottle at the bottom of the stage so that I could take a glimpse of him every time I drink water. He was really gorgeous but I was too shy to talk to him or even try and make a move.

About  4 hours into the dance marathon one of the girls in my school came to talk to me. She was in the class above mine but also lived in our area and went to the same church. She said that the beautiful blond wanted to dance with me. I was ecstatic. So we danced the rest of the night.

When it was time to go home he asked me for a kiss and I stood there with my eyes closed and my lips puckered… and his friend laughed at me…. I felt really embarrassed but the beautiful blond gave me a tender kiss on my lips. Seven years later we got married.

We’ve been married for eight years and although we’ve had our ups and downs I truly love him and can’t live without him. I hope that we will stay this happy until the end of days.

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