Create Sexual Energy in and Around Your Home

In ancient times new brides would go through a ceremony readying her body for her new husband. These would include ritual baths and massages. Sex between two people were considered sacred and magical. Nowadays people forget just how divine this act can be.

To bring back the divine nature of sex one could create spaces in your home that will evoke your womanly  eroticism.

Ceremonial Spaces


Creating a love or marriage corner in your home will provide a focus for your sensual intention. Every time you pass by it, it will serve as a reminder of your sexual desire and excitement.

Cover a small table or desk with red or purple cloth. Decorate it with scented candles, incense,massage oils and pictures of you and your lover. You could even little sex symbols or statues. For example a statue of Aphrodite or Adonis a Karma Sutra book or sexual amulets from various cultures or countries and some fresh flowers.

Enshrine your bed


Consecrated places create the stage for holy events – Olivia St Claire

Adorn your bed with luxurious fabrics. Use sheer and lacy fabrics in summer and warm furry blankets in winter. Decorate it with velvety, satin or Egyptian cotton pillows that entice the body and the mind. Place candles and fresh flowers on your bed stand and even hang a sexy sheer kimono from the bedpost. Pillows and fluffy rugs also serve as tools for kneeling positions or positions that require leverage.

Romantic Feng Shui


According to the ancient Chinese art of Feng Shui, certain areas in your living space represent certain aspects of your life. Your Love and Marriage corner lies in the right corner of the room as you enter it. This one really works, we had a plant in our house that we had to move during the summer because it wasn’t getting enough light sunlight where it was so my husband moved it into the right corner of our bedroom and ever since he’s done that we’re definitely having more sex…

To achieve Feng Shui in your love an marriage corner remove any clutter from this area and adorn it with pairs of things, plants, candles, love memento’s, quotes about love, fountains, fresh flowers, wind chimes, mirrors and pictures of you and your beloved. But avoid strong water, metal or wood element colours in this area.

Seduction – The Art of Skirt Lifting

An ancient gesture of female power, the uncovering of a creamy thigh, plump bottom or dark, mysterious vee has been a staple of seduction for thousands of years” Olivia St Claire.

For centuries women have been using what’s under their clothes to seduce even the most powerful of men. Aphrodite let her drapes fall just enough to expose her plump bottom, similarly Cancan dancers lift their skirts to give their admirers a glimpse of what lithes beneath. In modern days the skirt is still used as a powerful tool of seduction.

The attitude

Remember that men have lost fortunes and empires for what you have underneath your skirt. You’ve got it, they want it. And remember, reveal but conceal!

The skirt

The ideal skirt for skirt lifting is something short and flirty but not something that’s too tight, something wispy that sways when you walk, or long and bellowing that might accidentally reveal some of the secrets hidden underneath. You want something that is flattering and comfortable to avoid looking trampy


In order to reveal your holy grail make sure what you have to show is worth seeing. It wouldn’t be alluring if you were wearing grandma panties or your oldest knickers with faded out patterns. Wear something that makes you feel sexy, lace, silk, thigh high stockings with a sexy lace trim or garter or absolutely nothing.

The styles

The hitchhiker

Female hitchhikers around the world has used this to get a ride for ages. Scrunch up your skirt to reveal a thigh, with you toe pointed of course :D.



The Sharon Stone Cross

In basic instinct Sharon Stone sits with her legs crossed. She uncrosses and crosses her legs to reveal her deep dark cave, if only for a moment.


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The Aphrodite Drop

Aphrodite seduces by slowly drops her drapes from her shoulder to reveal her bottom. Look over your shoulder for to look at your fanny and then at him. Or drop it in one fell swoop.


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The Lolita

Bend over with a short skirt to reveal just enough to still remain a lady.


The Gypsy

Raise a full long skirt high up both your thighs but leave the middle part draping down. Point one toe, cock your hip and look sultry.


The Monroe Butterfly

Marilyn Monroe stands feet astride on top of a subway grating letting the wind blow up her skirt. Wait for a strong breeze or twirl around to create a similar effect. Remember to look innocent while doing this


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The accidental flash

This one usually happens whether we intend it or not. Most often when sitting down while wearing a short skirt or getting in and out of cars. Keep your legs together in mock innocence.



The subliminal lift

Tell your lover what you’re wearing or not wearing under your dress and let him subliminally lift your dress.

Source: 302 Advanced Techniques to drive a man wild in bed – Olive St Claire.


Which Sex and the City girl are you?

Are you the duty before self Charlotte? The literal and intellectual Carrie? The fiery loner Miranda? Or the nothing to lose Samantha?

Everyone has a favourite Sex and the City girl. Your favourite girl is a reflection of who you are. Even if you have more than one favourite it represents a balance between the four personalities.

According to proto-psychological theory there are four fundamental personality types; Sanguine (optimistic and social),  Choleric (short tempered and irritable), Melancholic (analytical and quiet) and Phlegmatic (relaxed and peaceful) Hippocrates classified these personalities according to the four elements, earth, wind, fire and water.He stated that there could also be a balance between the 4 personalities yielding a total of 9 personalities (wikipedia)

Lets get to the point then…which Sex and the city girl are you?


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Miranda is sanguine. According to the Sanguine personality type your qualities include; sociable, outgoing, talkative, responsive, easygoing, lively, carefree and leadership. If you are Miranda, you are warm-hearted, optimistic and creative. The things you enjoy doing the most are the things you love.

Miranda style always showed that she wasn’t afraid of a challenge. Her style was effortlessly sexy. Her LBD didn’t show too much skin showing that she didn’t need feminine charm to get a man. She often drank whiskey on the rocks to show that she has the balls for a challenge. Her adventurous side was illustrated by her statement jewelry choices. She practically lived in her lounge wear when she was at home, and her lingerie style was more comfort than glam. She often wore lingerie that were functional as it’s coming off in any way.



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Samantha is Choleric. Accordingly your personality qualities include; touchy, aggressive, restless, excitable, changeable, impulsive, optimistic and active. If you are Samantha, you are task orientated and prefer to get things done immediately. You  are strong willed and like to be in charge. You like planning and you are practical and solution orientated.

Samantha’s style is lust driven. She is strong and driven and not afraid to mix business with pleasure. Her LBD’s whole existence is there so that men can be inspired to take it off. Her lingerie choices would include lacy corsets that doesn’t take much skill to remove.



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Carrie is Phlegmatic. If you are Carrie your qualities include: passive, careful, thoughtful, peaceful, controlled, reliable, even tempered and calm. You are patient, caring and tolerant. You have a rich peaceful inner self. You seek peaceful environments and atmospheres. You are steadfast and consistent and therefore you make a good friend.

Carries style is adventurous and flirty. She likes to mix vintage items with high fashion items. Her style is fresh and girly. In modern day it might even be a little bohemian at times.  Her lingerie choices would include very cute bra and a thong, something a little more edgy



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Charlotte is Melancholic. According to this personality type, your qualities are; reserved, quiet, sober, anxious, moody, rigid, pessimistic and unsociable. You prefer to do things yourself. You are often concerned about the cruelty of the world and is easily susceptible to depression and moodiness. You are focused and conscientious and have great sympathy for the world.

Charlotte’s style is feminine and classy. She loves outfits that make her look like a girl. Her outfits almost always include floral prints, lace or silk. She prefers to look classy and would not experiment with outrageous fashions. Her underwear would include very cute bra and pantie sets


Although these personality types are all different, one could argue that they fulfill each other. Just like you often get introverts and extroverts being drawn to each other in an effort to compliment the other by compensating for their social deficits. Each personality type is there to enhance and enrich the other, whatever your personality type.




The importance of date night.

There are millions of people around the world and each person has their own quarks. Similarly each couple experience their relationship differently. Even though there are some characteristics that all relationships share, our experiences are all different. Take me and my brother for instance. We’re both married but we experience our relationships in manners that are worlds apart. My husband and I prefer to do almost everything together. We can’t stand being apart. When he had to sleep over at my brothers house to write his exams in Seoul, I missed him so much that I did the kind of things that anxious people do to keep themselves calm. Like cleaning the house and going shopping, washing all the carpets etc. Whereas my brother and his wife believe that spending time apart can be therapeutic. And there is no right or wrong way. We are both happy with the way we do things within our relationships.

This brings me to date night. As previously mentioned each person’s likes and dislikes are different. For example, to me date night means going out for dinner or a movie, it has to be at night, otherwise its just ‘going out’ whereas others might turn of their cellphones and other social media devices and just spend a quiet night watching DVD’s The one isn’t any better than the other. The more important thing is spending time together, away from normal adult stuff.

Date night is important because living in a household together with your partner or spouse can be stressful, you have to cook, clean, look after the children and pay the bills. Although you may do these things with your partner it often happens that you live past each other. Therefore date night is an important habit to form. It gives you the chance to catch up with your partner about what’s going on in their lives, and to share your feelings.

Date night is the time to rekindle your love whether you do date night once a week or once a month it is an important part of being a couple.

Therefore it is important to put time aside for just the 2 of you, similarly celebrating special events like birthdays and wedding anniversaries are also important, whether you make it a big affair or just a simple token of appreciation like breakfast in bed.

Don’t forget how special you are to each other and take every opportunity you can to show your spouse how much you love and care for them.


Is your makeup sending mixed messages?

We girls spend a lot of time preparing for a night out. It usually takes us around 3 hours to choose the right outfit, right hairstyle and do our makeup. If you are single a night out may end by meeting the love of your life but does he see you as the love of his life or just another ‘wham bam thank you mam’?

According to evulotuinary psychology ‘Men have their own preferences in physical appearance of their mate. Men’s main interest is to impregnate a mate to have children. Men tend to seek relatively young woman with full lips, breasts, and hips, and a smaller waist, because these indicate sufficient estrogen levels to successfully birth a child. Men also look for facial symmetry, shiny hair, clear skin, and white sclera. Men are less concerned about the social status of their chosen mate’.

In this case your make-up plays a big role. It is well known that men are visual creatures. If they like what they see, they are likely to approach you. Your make-up might determine how the night will end.

Research suggest that if you wear more natural makeup you seem more like  the marrying type.



Red lipstick accentuates your lips and heavy eye makeup makes draws attention to your eyes making the sclera look whiter. Therefore this look will make you look more attractive but it will also send the message that you’re only good for one thing, which often ends in heartbreak if you really liked a guy and he doesn’t ever call you back after you hot summer night together.


This goes to show that your makeup can send a different message than you intend. Generally  I  wear more natural makeup to work but I love smokey eyes and red dark lipsticks. Often when I want a certain response from my husband I will wear more eye makeup and lipstick on a night out as this works like a bomb….if you know what I mean.

Here are some more interesting information about what your lipstick says about you.6a0120a936e08e970b0133f4bed3ae970b-800wi.jpg