Seduction – What Is Your Brand of Charismatic Smolder?

What makes a woman irresistible? What made the the insecure small-town girl, Marilyn Monroe-the sex symbol of our time, so irresistible? Or the not all that gorgeous Cleopatra, conqueror of mighty men, so compelling.

It was their own special brand of overpowering charisma that made them so alluring to men. Every women have their own personal brand of alluring charisma embroidered in their mental and physical beings.. Find out which of these most closely resembles your own and magnify it. For fun you could also try out other brands of charisma add some playful fun to your own feminine powers. So lets find out…

What’s is Your Brand of Charismatic Smolder?

Kittenish

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With this style you can focus on your soft pouty lips and touchable skin. Wear pastel shades of pink, peach and beige. Read lots of romance novels and lower your head in a shy Princess Di way as you whisper to your man. Cultivate your modest but yearn to be ravished look.

Exotic

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Dramatize your already vivid features. Wear bright, bold colors and jangling jewelry. Read the Kama Sutra and surprise your man with a Tantric massage. Take rituals baths. Light musky candles and wear musky perfume. Sway your hips like a belly dancer and spread your spicy intensity through life.

Elegant

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Exuding refinement and a sense of rich luxury offer up your long elegant neck to your lovers kiss. Wear classic ensembles and simple hairstyles. Prance around in flowing lingerie. Admire classic Georgia O’Keeffe paintings. Glide your fingers over his skin and send him to sensual heaven.

Sporty

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Flaunt your athletic body and sinewy muscles. Wear sporty leggings, perfectly fitted jeans or sexy tops that accentuate your athleticism. Be a sexual athlete in bed and ignite your erotic imagination. Make him laugh and challenge him to a game of strip billiards. Radiate vibrant health an irresistible joy of life.

Fiery

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Accentuate your eyes which burns with an internal flame. Wear slinky outfits and bold jewelry. Shake your hips or join a salsa club. Growl, pant and claw like a tigress in the bedroom. “Be so passionate about life that your inner fire sends sparks across any room”

Smart

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Don’t be afraid to let intelligence and depth shine through your eyes. Dress with taste and style and the occasional item that has an interesting story behind it. Develop a vast vocabulary of steamy language. Introduce your man to a sensual piece of art or music and tell him something fascinating about himself. Project a sense of mystery, depth and worldliness.

Earthy

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Play up your voluptuous figure and womanly walk. Wear a low cut gown with heels or go barefoot. Lick food from your fingers and let wine drizzle down your chin into your cleavage. Give your man plenty of smoldering glances and husky-voiced promises. Tease him with your hot touch. Be shamelessly lusty

Wild Woman

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Wield your outrageousness like an electrifying weapon. Wear leather, over the top frills, garter belts and wild hairdos. Make erotic videos, and randy overtures in semi public places. Promise to tie hi up and bite his ear playfully. Ooze unpredictable edginess and a sense of delicious danger.

 

Resources

302 Advanced Techniques for driving a man wild in bed by Olivia St. Claire

The importance of date night.

There are millions of people around the world and each person has their own quarks. Similarly each couple experience their relationship differently. Even though there are some characteristics that all relationships share, our experiences are all different. Take me and my brother for instance. We’re both married but we experience our relationships in manners that are worlds apart. My husband and I prefer to do almost everything together. We can’t stand being apart. When he had to sleep over at my brothers house to write his exams in Seoul, I missed him so much that I did the kind of things that anxious people do to keep themselves calm. Like cleaning the house and going shopping, washing all the carpets etc. Whereas my brother and his wife believe that spending time apart can be therapeutic. And there is no right or wrong way. We are both happy with the way we do things within our relationships.

This brings me to date night. As previously mentioned each person’s likes and dislikes are different. For example, to me date night means going out for dinner or a movie, it has to be at night, otherwise its just ‘going out’ whereas others might turn of their cellphones and other social media devices and just spend a quiet night watching DVD’s The one isn’t any better than the other. The more important thing is spending time together, away from normal adult stuff.

Date night is important because living in a household together with your partner or spouse can be stressful, you have to cook, clean, look after the children and pay the bills. Although you may do these things with your partner it often happens that you live past each other. Therefore date night is an important habit to form. It gives you the chance to catch up with your partner about what’s going on in their lives, and to share your feelings.

Date night is the time to rekindle your love whether you do date night once a week or once a month it is an important part of being a couple.

Therefore it is important to put time aside for just the 2 of you, similarly celebrating special events like birthdays and wedding anniversaries are also important, whether you make it a big affair or just a simple token of appreciation like breakfast in bed.

Don’t forget how special you are to each other and take every opportunity you can to show your spouse how much you love and care for them.

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Advice to my younger self.

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Dear Younger Self.

Now that I’m 31, I have some things to say to you

First go study. Don’t wait until your late 20’s. You are much smarter than you think. You have the potential. Just because you didn’t do so well in school doesn’t mean that your dumb. You’ll be able to pass both your degrees with distinction just go for it.

Stop telling yourself you are fat and ugly. Wait until your 26 then you’ll know what is fat. Stop complaining and do something about it. Get in the gym now so that I don’t have to work so hard later. You are still young and beautiful enjoy that and stop being so negative, I’m still trying to clean up after your mess.

Stop buying on credit. By the time you’ve paid off that little blue dress you won’t even be wearing it anymore. That dress isn’t really worth it in any case, so don’t even buy it. If you start saving now, you’ll be able to afford the things you really want later and you won’t worry about your old age so much.

Love your husband more, he really is a keeper. And spend more time with your family. Soon some of them won’t be there anymore. Also visit Julian more, one of these days he’s going to Korea and then you won’t see him for 4 years.

I would hope that you will follow my advice but as we both know, it’s already too late

 

Sincerely yours

Your future self.

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Someone I see myself with in the future

When I was 16 years old I went to a 24 hour dance marathon hosted by our church with my best friend. When we walked into the dance hall there was a beautiful blond guy standing on the stage. He wasn’t alone but I only saw him. He had long blond hair that sort of hung in his face. And Ice blue eyes that reminded me of the ocean.

While I was dancing I stole looks at him ever so often. I left my water bottle at the bottom of the stage so that I could take a glimpse of him every time I drink water. He was really gorgeous but I was too shy to talk to him or even try and make a move.

About  4 hours into the dance marathon one of the girls in my school came to talk to me. She was in the class above mine but also lived in our area and went to the same church. She said that the beautiful blond wanted to dance with me. I was ecstatic. So we danced the rest of the night.

When it was time to go home he asked me for a kiss and I stood there with my eyes closed and my lips puckered… and his friend laughed at me…. I felt really embarrassed but the beautiful blond gave me a tender kiss on my lips. Seven years later we got married.

We’ve been married for eight years and although we’ve had our ups and downs I truly love him and can’t live without him. I hope that we will stay this happy until the end of days.

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The rock my life is built on.

The death of my aunt and mother a few years ago had a massive impact on my life. My mother was diagnosed with a brain tumour. It wasn’t going very well with her. She has already had 2 major brain surgeries to remove the tumour but it has come back for the third time. My mother was very confused about her surroundings and then all of a sudden her youngest sister , my aunt, died. My aunt was only 34 years old when she died. I spoke to her on the phone on Thursday and by the next Tuesday she had collapsed at work and was unable to open her eyes. She died 20 days later of a brain aneurysm. This was one of the hardest times in my life. Its easier when you know someone is going to die, rather than losing them suddenly. I remember that my mother was so confused at my aunts funeral that she asked my dad “Why are they throwing sand on my sister?” She realised but also didn’t realise  what the situation was. My mother died two years later at the age of a mere 50.

What happened to them made me decide that I wanted to live a healthy life. They both died really young and I didn’t want to die at a young age.

Through all this sadness I had one person who really stood by me, he laughed when I laughed and cried when I cried. He helped me make and achieve goals when I felt that I never wanted to love anyone again. Sometimes I was so sad that life had no meaning but he showed me the meaning of my life, he made me want to live again. He is my husband.

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