Create Sexual Energy in and Around Your Home

In ancient times new brides would go through a ceremony readying her body for her new husband. These would include ritual baths and massages. Sex between two people were considered sacred and magical. Nowadays people forget just how divine this act can be.

To bring back the divine nature of sex one could create spaces in your home that will evoke your womanly  eroticism.

Ceremonial Spaces

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Creating a love or marriage corner in your home will provide a focus for your sensual intention. Every time you pass by it, it will serve as a reminder of your sexual desire and excitement.

Cover a small table or desk with red or purple cloth. Decorate it with scented candles, incense,massage oils and pictures of you and your lover. You could even little sex symbols or statues. For example a statue of Aphrodite or Adonis a Karma Sutra book or sexual amulets from various cultures or countries and some fresh flowers.

Enshrine your bed

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Consecrated places create the stage for holy events – Olivia St Claire

Adorn your bed with luxurious fabrics. Use sheer and lacy fabrics in summer and warm furry blankets in winter. Decorate it with velvety, satin or Egyptian cotton pillows that entice the body and the mind. Place candles and fresh flowers on your bed stand and even hang a sexy sheer kimono from the bedpost. Pillows and fluffy rugs also serve as tools for kneeling positions or positions that require leverage.

Romantic Feng Shui

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According to the ancient Chinese art of Feng Shui, certain areas in your living space represent certain aspects of your life. Your Love and Marriage corner lies in the right corner of the room as you enter it. This one really works, we had a plant in our house that we had to move during the summer because it wasn’t getting enough light sunlight where it was so my husband moved it into the right corner of our bedroom and ever since he’s done that we’re definitely having more sex…

To achieve Feng Shui in your love an marriage corner remove any clutter from this area and adorn it with pairs of things, plants, candles, love memento’s, quotes about love, fountains, fresh flowers, wind chimes, mirrors and pictures of you and your beloved. But avoid strong water, metal or wood element colours in this area.

The importance of date night.

There are millions of people around the world and each person has their own quarks. Similarly each couple experience their relationship differently. Even though there are some characteristics that all relationships share, our experiences are all different. Take me and my brother for instance. We’re both married but we experience our relationships in manners that are worlds apart. My husband and I prefer to do almost everything together. We can’t stand being apart. When he had to sleep over at my brothers house to write his exams in Seoul, I missed him so much that I did the kind of things that anxious people do to keep themselves calm. Like cleaning the house and going shopping, washing all the carpets etc. Whereas my brother and his wife believe that spending time apart can be therapeutic. And there is no right or wrong way. We are both happy with the way we do things within our relationships.

This brings me to date night. As previously mentioned each person’s likes and dislikes are different. For example, to me date night means going out for dinner or a movie, it has to be at night, otherwise its just ‘going out’ whereas others might turn of their cellphones and other social media devices and just spend a quiet night watching DVD’s The one isn’t any better than the other. The more important thing is spending time together, away from normal adult stuff.

Date night is important because living in a household together with your partner or spouse can be stressful, you have to cook, clean, look after the children and pay the bills. Although you may do these things with your partner it often happens that you live past each other. Therefore date night is an important habit to form. It gives you the chance to catch up with your partner about what’s going on in their lives, and to share your feelings.

Date night is the time to rekindle your love whether you do date night once a week or once a month it is an important part of being a couple.

Therefore it is important to put time aside for just the 2 of you, similarly celebrating special events like birthdays and wedding anniversaries are also important, whether you make it a big affair or just a simple token of appreciation like breakfast in bed.

Don’t forget how special you are to each other and take every opportunity you can to show your spouse how much you love and care for them.

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Advice to my younger self.

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Dear Younger Self.

Now that I’m 31, I have some things to say to you

First go study. Don’t wait until your late 20’s. You are much smarter than you think. You have the potential. Just because you didn’t do so well in school doesn’t mean that your dumb. You’ll be able to pass both your degrees with distinction just go for it.

Stop telling yourself you are fat and ugly. Wait until your 26 then you’ll know what is fat. Stop complaining and do something about it. Get in the gym now so that I don’t have to work so hard later. You are still young and beautiful enjoy that and stop being so negative, I’m still trying to clean up after your mess.

Stop buying on credit. By the time you’ve paid off that little blue dress you won’t even be wearing it anymore. That dress isn’t really worth it in any case, so don’t even buy it. If you start saving now, you’ll be able to afford the things you really want later and you won’t worry about your old age so much.

Love your husband more, he really is a keeper. And spend more time with your family. Soon some of them won’t be there anymore. Also visit Julian more, one of these days he’s going to Korea and then you won’t see him for 4 years.

I would hope that you will follow my advice but as we both know, it’s already too late

 

Sincerely yours

Your future self.

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Someone I see myself with in the future

When I was 16 years old I went to a 24 hour dance marathon hosted by our church with my best friend. When we walked into the dance hall there was a beautiful blond guy standing on the stage. He wasn’t alone but I only saw him. He had long blond hair that sort of hung in his face. And Ice blue eyes that reminded me of the ocean.

While I was dancing I stole looks at him ever so often. I left my water bottle at the bottom of the stage so that I could take a glimpse of him every time I drink water. He was really gorgeous but I was too shy to talk to him or even try and make a move.

About  4 hours into the dance marathon one of the girls in my school came to talk to me. She was in the class above mine but also lived in our area and went to the same church. She said that the beautiful blond wanted to dance with me. I was ecstatic. So we danced the rest of the night.

When it was time to go home he asked me for a kiss and I stood there with my eyes closed and my lips puckered… and his friend laughed at me…. I felt really embarrassed but the beautiful blond gave me a tender kiss on my lips. Seven years later we got married.

We’ve been married for eight years and although we’ve had our ups and downs I truly love him and can’t live without him. I hope that we will stay this happy until the end of days.

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My family

Today I would like to share my family with you. I have chosen a picture from my wedding back in 2007. It is one of the last photo’s I have of my mother still alive and well, with  the rest of our nuclear family. It is also at that time that we added more family members to our little family.

The first picture is of my parents. The second is of my husbands’ parents and the last picture is of us and our brothers.

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